awww am sorry t hear that just breathe count to ten then ask yourself is it really worth fights happen all the time but harming yourself is not going to improve things just understand that its hard all relationships are you just need to take deep breathe's and ask what do you want its ok to be selfish even if its that you want some time alone to listen to a song that makes you happy take some you time even if its 5 minutes to a day then when you feel better try to sort things out am here if you need to talk anytime x

Pleassse don't cut. Please. Im sorry about your fights with your husband, but atleast you know the reason for the cutting, and thats better than some. Just take a step out of your skin for a while when you feel like you should SI, think to yourself, "in a day will I say 'ohh thank god i cut'" (hopefully that wont be the case...) Just know that people care what you do, and people want you to be happy (:

my advice is this... have you ever heard the phrase "if it ain't broke, don't fix it"? this is the reverse... the cutting is the "break" in the foundation. it isn't improving things, and it very well may be making things worse. so do this. next time, instead of cutting, try something else. go for a short drive or a walk. rant and rave while you are on this walk. let out all your frustrations to the wind. and if that doesn't work, there are a million other things to do. go to a movie. watch a funny tv show. cook your favorite meal, etc. cause if it's broke, and you don't fix it, it's only gonna get worse

I fight with mine and end up cutting too. He gets really angry and says the worst things! Guys have a tough time grasping the concept that we want to feel BETTER not WORSE. Whyyyy is he fighting me more? Can't he see the pain?!

You can find other ways of dealing with your arguements. Getting a girl friend to vent to is a good way, or joining a poetry group can be very therapeutic! Always be sure to say something nice about your spouse to counterbalance the negativity. You're probably just turning inward rather than outward.
Men like to feel useful, because they aren't as emotional creatures like us,so when there is a heated arguement they feel like there's nothing they can do so they quickly get overwelmed and get either loud or silent. They don't always understand the emotional side of things, they like things to be a bit more logical so they can fix it. Guys can be complete clueless sometimes (well, so can us girls, to be fair!) You REALLY have to spell out your needs, sometimes literally even on a post it if you have to!

Sweetie you are in control, YOU are holding the blade. You have capacity for great wit and deep feelings. You just gotta take those strengths and turn that blade around! Put it away and put your thinking cap on and come up with an awesome plan to use love instead of fear to your advantage. YOU will feel sooo much better!
If you have the strength to do one of the hardest things in the world and hurt yourself, you can do the easier thing and love yourself. Even when it seems your mister isn't there for you! Respect your heart!