this is very hard to get past.. i still havent.. support from you is key .. understand that she has no copingmechanisms so when she feels stress she only know how to resort to one thing!!!! i think what you are doing is amazing!! alot of on here dont ahve the family support.. if you ahve anymore questions dont hesitate to ask! i hope this helps

please message me whenever! I stopped all intentional injuries about 10yrs ago.

i would like to help! [b/c i wish someone had gotten through to me]

i always thought....i'll always be this fat and ugly...so i won't need to worry about the scars

I used the self injury to turn off emotions. I was never allowed to be angry, and didn't have someone i could trust with my other emotions.

free assosication writting helped me....i still do a bit of ranting to this day!

imagine a thousand tiny little insects crawling around under neath your skin... each one has its own intense feelings its own mind and you want them out.......how would you get them out???? that was my way of explaining it, i havnt hurt myself in 2 years and to this day it is a struggle, i have a feoncee and its hard for him to understand, read some more things in hear it mighthelp you get a better understanding of what it feels like, just remeber it is an adiction, it turns to a chemical imbalance in the brain and if u dont do it then you feel sad how long has she been doin it???

*hugs* I wish my parents had been there for me when I was that age.

for me, things get soooo intense inside. I don't know how else to let them out or distract myself from things. I am 37 now and still fight this.

Keep telling her how much you love her, how much you want to help, that you may not understand fully, but want to be there for her.

*hugs*

ive been cutting since i was 11 and im still doing it now, your daughter is lucky she has someone who knows about her problems and that you are there to support her kno1 in my family knows so i have never had support. i hope things get better soon x

ur daughter sounds alot like me ask her to make a profil and mabe i can help her some
ashley/amh125

agree with what smoggie said, the onlysupporti get is from this site, but fromwhat you said,it sounds likeyour onlytring tomask the problemhave you personallytalked toher andtried to sort out her problems,if so then nvm, i dont want to sound mean, since your clearly not a bad person, mymum was less then helpfull when i was freaking out about a week after starting to cut,itoldher and she made me promiss i wouldent do it again and i did and that was a clear lie but she belived it and not another word has been spoken about my cutting since.

I have been cutting for the past 11 years ,and selfharming for 15 years my family try to help but do not understand. all you can do is offer your support to your daughter if you try to do anything more then you might end up pushing her away. i am glad she is recieving proffessional help and support,unfortunatley selfharm is highly addictive and just like any addiction it is very hard to stop!youo have just got to remain patient and offer support when she needs it,but like all good things - you have to wait

I wish my parents had known that I was cutting when I was at your daughter's age. I kept it hidden, very well. I kept it hidden from the time I was 13 until the time I was 18. I am 19 and while I haven't cut since I came to my parents with the information...I still have the urge. And I am hiding that. And I am now at the age where they can't just make me go to therapy and whatnot.

I just wanted to praise you for being such a great mom and trying to help your daughter out as much as you can. I'm keeping your family in my prayers. Message me if you ever just need to talk. I know I'm young...but I've been through a lot of stupid problems.

There is a website www.selfinjury.com this is the home of SAFE (Self Abuse Finally Ends) Alternatives. They run a treatment center in Denton, TX for adults and teenagers who self injure. I went there back in March-April of this year.

i definately agree....too much may only push her away more.
it would be better if she were here...or a different site that you are not a member of.
and my self injury is a side effect,...not the beginning of the problem