Self-Injury Support Group
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I use to cut really badly. I have this scar on my leg about 2 inches long and it was so deep that I had to literally hold my skin together. I wrapped it up to put pressure on it and so I wouldn't get blood everywhere. It was one of the scariest moments I've been through. I've never felt that bad. It was 2 years ago this November and it's still there. It was deep enough that I should have gotten stiches, but instead of telling anyone I covered it up and bandaged it and went to Thanksgiving like everything was normal.
I see it now and I'm still getting use to it.
The thing is, my boyfriend.
He's known about it since we started dating (although I didn't tell him till a while later) and he has seen it many times by now.
It bothers him and I feel horrible about it.
He loves me, but I can completely understand y it makes him feel weird. He never mentions it unless I bring it up and he's finally starting to get use to it, but it makes me sick to see and I have no idea how he puts up with it.
Besides surgery, I have no idea how I could get rid of it or make it smaller.
any advice?
and how do urs affect u?
I see it now and I'm still getting use to it.
The thing is, my boyfriend.
He's known about it since we started dating (although I didn't tell him till a while later) and he has seen it many times by now.
It bothers him and I feel horrible about it.
He loves me, but I can completely understand y it makes him feel weird. He never mentions it unless I bring it up and he's finally starting to get use to it, but it makes me sick to see and I have no idea how he puts up with it.
Besides surgery, I have no idea how I could get rid of it or make it smaller.
any advice?
and how do urs affect u?
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well, I don't know, if he can't accept you, past scars and all, maybe he isn't right for you...
deleted_user
you should talk to him about it, an see if he can be there for you?
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my mum is really concious of mine, shes always checking any bare skin and my clothes for blood and cuts, even if i get a paper cut she starts asking questions now. also, 1 of my friends tried to turn me into somebody and 1 of his friends, who i thought hated me, grabbed a pin infront of me and the friend that threatened 2 tell some1 about it and stabbed himself in the arm, drawing blood, and said 'you saw that, thats how it feels watching you like this' and that really shook me up, I can't get the image out of my head! and as advice, I'd have to say you just have to get on with life and if it bothers anybody then they aren't worth it unless they want to help you rather than feeling edgey around you.
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The only advice I can give you is that vitamin E cream is supposed to be very very good for reducing the severity of scar tissue. I don't know how long it takes as I've only recently found out about. Can't do any harm to give it a go. Good luck x
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i have a scar about two inches wide on my wrist that i had surgery on because i damage all the nerves in my forearm. it is still there 4 years on and i wouldnt have it any other way because it reminds me of how far i have come and that i am not that perosn any more and makes me proud to be able to say that i over came such a drastic, addictive and destructive condition. You and your boyfriend should look at it the same way!!
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