Self-Injury Support Group

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Hitting myself

-When I get upset, angry or frustrated I will hit myself.
-Mostly punches to the forehead.
-Last night I hit myself over the head with my phone repeatedly (I wasn't fond of the conversation).
-I will even wake myself up from sleep hitting myself. Which really scares me because I don't officially wake up untill I get maybe 5 good punches.
-I have constant head aches from this but i justifly my hitting to myself as a step away from cutting, which I did in my teens.

I just wondered if there was anyone else struggling with this issue of hitting too.

I just I loose control of my actions, a switch is flipped and i just want to relate my physical state of being to my emotional state of heartache, you know?

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I hit myself too! Once I did it so hard it actually left a hand mark on my arm :( Unfortunately, I don't know what to say... I try to be nice to myself as much as possible throughout the day... it seems to help. Smiling and laughing and being around other people helps a lot, too
deleted_user
deleted_user

yea man i do that sometimes! i used to punch my arm or leg... i even punched myself in the face a few times to the point where i got a black eye. its sooo weird the things that you do when that switch flips in your head.

i dont really know how to stop it... i try to talk myself through it when i feel like its gonna happen. it all goes back to putting that aggression towards something else and not yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I used to hit myself too until I found much more damaging ways to hurt myself. I think this is common with self-injury. However, waking up to discover that you are hitting yourself is not as common and could be a sign of an REM sleep disorder (among other possibilities). I would strongly suggest you consult a psychologist or a psychiatrist about this symptom pattern. My thoughts are with you.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I can relate. I would smack myself with the back of a brush to my head. All I can say is surround yourself with people that you can laugh with.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I hit my head too i do it repeatedly when i want to punnish my self about the abuse im dealing with,i have tried to stop but i keep doing it.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I hit myself in the forehead as well. I can't help it. I get soooooo frustrated that I can't think and I just start hitting my self in the head. It had been getting worse lately and I am becoming more concerned.
deleted_user
deleted_user

i hit myself just lastnite..because me & my bf got into a fight & i tried to stop myself but i really couldn't anger took over me.first i hit myself on the right side where my jaw is at about 3 times..i paused & switched to the other side...my bf was just sitting there watching me like any other person in that situation would do...finally i stopped with my face all bruised up & hurting i said "why didnt you stop me". he didnt reply..it took me about 20 mins after that episode to calm down but after that i was fine...this morning i decided to do something about it so i made an account on here in the hopes of finding some advice..i do this because i feel like i deserve it or to stop myself from hitting my bf...im only 18 & this has been going on for about a yr..i want it to stop now because im a beautiful young women & i feel like i am being selfish by doing this
deleted_user
deleted_user

Yeah I hit myself sometimes. But I'm trying to stop. I used to hit myself a long time ago, but I never tagged it as harmful or self-injury. I then started to cut myself last october and stopped in february. Then I started to hit myself again. I started to give myself huge bruises on my arms. I found out, it can actually really damage. Its very harmful.
About the hitting when you wake up, as another said, you should tell a doctor or psychiatrist
I'm here if you ever need to talk
deleted_user
deleted_user

i have a pretty big problem with this too. ive blacked out many times from hitting my head against the wall. i blacked out at my friends house after punching my face several times then banging my head into the table. idky i did it. but i woke up on the couch abt an hour later with a huge headache. its one of those things that you start with so much force that before you realize what your doing youve already done so much damage.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I hit myself as well. I am 24 years old and have done this since I was 17. I haven't hit myself for over a year until last night. I got in an argument with my fiance and started punching myself in the face. I am writing this with a black eye, bumps on my head, and my ear is swollen. I am very ashamed, I have never done it this bad. I want to stop hitting my fiance when I am mad, and I never want to do this to myself again. I need advice and support. I'm so glad I am not the only one.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Augh I do that exact same thing! About a month ago I saw my ex boyfriend in the mall and I had a near panic attack, and ran to the bathroom while my current boyfriend and our friends found seats in the movie theater, and i cried and punched my legs and dug my fingernails into my stomach and chest :-\
deleted_user
deleted_user

I'm actually a girl. I hit myself also. I am 27 and have been hitting myslef for 6 years. It has only really gotten more freaquent in the last 3. I hate myself for it... Sorry I don't have any good advice for you except talk about it with your friends and family. If they know at least you don't have to carry the shame by yourself. I don't feel so alone when I know someone else knows. That way when it does happen (because that feelings eventually always comes back) you have someone to call before hand or afterward. Also, this isn't much better, but back in Jan. I started smacking myself across the face repeatedly instead of banging my head into the wall or punching myself in the head. It seems to have somewhat of the same effect without the big knot you your head for days. Also, I have tried the super aggressive work outs, that helps a bit, but YOGA has helped me the most. It hasn't fixed me, but it has definalty help me not get to that "flip out" feeling as quickly as I would If i did not practice.

My last boyfriend used to feel bad for me an hug me when I freaked. I never did it in front of him, but told him later on because I would be hystrical and cry and feel bad about it for hours afterwards. My new boyfriend has threatened to get out of the car or walk away from me when I have hit myself in front of him. Try to talk too your girldfriend.... I definalty preferred the hug and the words that everything would be ok, even if I didn't believe or appriciate them.

Does anyone else get the feeling & want to hit themselves over a ton of small insignificant stuff? I mean like being late, or not returning school books on time, or standing in a really long slow line in walmart? Its never ust one of those things, but a combination or just because I get so upset with myself. Please someone else that has this problem let me know. I really want to understand...

Thanks!
deleted_user
deleted_user

How do we stop?
deleted_user
deleted_user

Yeah, hitting myself on the head and head banging has always been my profile.

I hit myself with my fists and sometimes other objects I have also been known to hit myself on the head with the phone when having a distressing conversation.

One time I hit myself on the head with a sharp object and drew blood, I went around like Harry Potter for a while with a big scar on my forehead.

Somebody asked "how can you stop it?"

Well the solution that is working for me as the moment was to get out of the Toxic environment that I was in and practicing meditation and going for walks.
bowler08
bowler08

I hit so I don't cut too, but I avoid anything that will be exposed to people, so I've never hit my head.

I usually use my fists and punch my leg or the side of my ribs, but I've also used a pipe on my ribs, other smaller metal objects similar to brass knuckles, and a belt on my back.

Not that I would ever hit someone else or think of hitting someone else, I just find that pain in general makes the emotion drain out of me, and I prefer a bruise to a scar.