how self.harm help people cope. we have seen that self harm is a way of coping with overwhelming feelings that result from awful experiences.FEELINGS ANGUISH AND PAIN.acknowledging,expressing or distracting oneSelf from painful feelings.THINGS TO REMIND HERSELF OF she is worth caring about and doing nice things for she a worthwhile person with lots to offer, she matters and her life matters. hope she get well very soon just listen to when she ready to talk about any thing . take care bighugssssss

I have been dealing with self injury off and on for almost 20 years now, and I want to say it usually gets better as you get older. Also, occasional relapses are pretty common. It is important not to get down on yourself if you have an occasional relapse. Almost everyone has a little relapse now and then. I just try to put it behind me quickly, and not dwell on it. Feel free to send me a message if I can be of any help. Your daughter is definitely not alone.

sweety i am tracie and im 16 and i know hwo you feel when you are in the hospital. but hun the only way you can help is yourself is to let other people step in when you cant handle it anymore. it is hard but you can do it! :D. i believe in you! even though i dont know you! but still.. everyone ! has a purpose in life! :D so hang in there!
Tracie

sweety i am tracie and im 16 and i know hwo you feel when you are in the hospital. but hun the only way you can help is yourself is to let other people step in when you cant handle it anymore. it is hard but you can do it! :D. i believe in you! even though i dont know you! but still.. everyone ! has a purpose in life! :D so hang in there!
Tracie

Hi there, hope you're ok. Don't worry, we know how you feel. For me, cutting is the only way to get through the worst times.. it's tough when you find it hard to tell other people because you're afraid of what they might think.. but that's why this place is so cool.. you can talk to us about anything anytime.. and it's so good to let it all out. we're all going through similar things..and noone will ever judge you. sending you Huge hugs x you'll be ok x emily

I know what you are going through. I was in hospital for self harm a few years ago. Hang on in there and talk to someone about how you feel. I found that drawing on myself in red pen helped but everyone is different. I send you a huge hug and would like to tell you that you are not alone. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

i know how you feel because i've been in the hosiptal before for self injure and i've been cutting for 5 months and i im all so going to theropy so i've had alot do deal with so dont worry i know how you fell im 14 and i've need alot of help so dont worry k bye

You guys are the BEST! Thanks for the replies so far!

You are not alone, you are not a freak! Many people in this world are too ignorant to try and understand that self injury is a real thing to some people. Anytime you need someone to listen or ask questions to this website is here to help you. Hang in there and stay open with your family, I can tell that your mom cares and wants to help in any way possible. You're lucky to have that so take advantage and talk to her and help her understand your feelings and thoughts. Good luck and remember you're not alone in this.

hey sweetheart

as you can see there are others out there ...
I know, we who SI tend to think there ain't no one that understands but THERE ARE ... here is the proof. A bunch of messages for you.

One thing I do have to tell you though is that you have the precious gift of having a mom that cares about you - use that gift. When times get rough and u can't deal with it - lean on your mom and let her into your "world". I am sure she'll understand (even though u may think she won't)
give her a chance, open up to her & get professional help!!!

good luck in your journey

I am with you!!!

Mandy

Little note for ConcernedMom first:

Hey, just want to say that it's awsome that you are here. because it means that they are actually trying to help. I think that's great, and i'm sure in the future your daughter will really apreciate it.

okay, to your daughter.

Boy, you must be feeling not too hot about now, having people dote on you hand and foot, taking away anything sharp. I know that the loss of control is scary and annoying, but just take it as a compliment, it means you are cared about!

And never forget that, you have plenty of people (including a loving mom) that care about your health and safety. But mostly, never be afraid to simply say that you are hurting, or that you are unhappy. It's okay to need a little help- most people need it at one point in their life. Your importnant and worth it, never forget that.

I wish you all the best, and I KNOW that you can do this. Sometimes it just takes a lot of stubborness and a little bit of help.

i've been in the hospital and there have been times when i have never felt more alone...but trust me. you arent alone. there are so many people who are going through the same things as you...the same struggles and the same hardships. i really hope things get better for you. i have been suffering with self injury for years. i am 24 but i now realize that there are so many people out there who are caring and wonderful and want to help me and see me win this battle. i wish the same for you. best wishes and good luck...and remember we are all here for you.**BIIIIIIG HUGS!** love, Jeralyn

Thanks to everyone! I took all your notes to my daughter, Hannah to read when she felt up to it.