You have to develop a winner mentality, and to do this you have to root out the negativity that is holding you back and replace it with a positive influence. This is where positive thinking comes in.
The first step is to listen to yourself and hear when you put yourself down, whether you actually do it aloud or silently in your head. If you hear a comment such as â??I canâ??t believe how stupid I amâ??, stop whatever you are doing immediately and concentrate on figuring out why you are talking to yourself like that.
Often there will be something apparent immediately that you can use to contradict the negative thought. Suppose you are driving down the road, flushed and embarrassed after a gaffe at work. Remind yourself that you are smart enough to drive a car and hold down a job, so you definitely arenâ??t stupid. Say â??OK, I made a mistake, but that is being a human.â?? Forgive yourself and move forward.
The same goes if you look in the mirror and immediately experience disgust. You hear the voice in your head telling you that your eyes are too far apart, and your chin is too small; you look ugly and no-one could possibly be attracted to you. Time out! Where are your happy thoughts?
What about your gorgeous hair and your full lips? You look like YOU, not a pinup. If you focus on the things that you like about your appearance you wonâ??t have time to dwell on the things you dislike. Make a point to pick up a small article that suits your best features, such as a lipstick or scarf that highlights your natural coloring. Concentrate on accentuating the positive, and see your self confidence bloom!
You can use tools like daily affirmations and mantras to hijack negative thoughts throughout each day and replace them with empowering words that lift you up and make your day brighter. Use positive thinking daily, and you will grow a healthy self-esteem and your perception of yourself will improve!