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Scoliosis affects all ages. Unlike the naturally occurring curves in the spine, scoliosis causes the spine to curve abnormally to the left or right.

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Sex with having a herington rod in your back?

I am having trouble moving during and my b-friend has to do most of the work and i feel bad for not being able to do it very well.

Do you guys have this problem too? Like, how do you make love with a metal rod in your back? It stops the flexability.

And does it hurt your back after? What positions are best for scoliosis, metal rod in back? Thanks!
xoxo

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I will be following this line as well as sex is very important to my dh. I haven't had the sugery yet and am very nervous about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user

lol I am undergoing surgery on September 12th and this hadn't really crossed my mind until reading your post. Let me know what you find out!! :-)
deleted_user
deleted_user

I'm 43. Had the surgery and the rods inserted in 1981, when I was 16. Didn't start having sex until I was 18, but it was and has never been an issue for me. If you are in pain or having a problem when you do have sex, you should definately speak with your dctor. I know that it could be a little embarassing, but it is important. Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user

When I asked my doctor abt sex after my extensive lumbar to sacrum surgery, he said no problem unless it causes pain. Re-engaging in sex was not exactly as it was before. I found it necessary to try positions, pillows, etc. A willing partner definitely helps. Flexibility was initially a problem, but twas great motivation to exercise. It has not been possible to retain the female on top position, but other pleasureable avenues have been opened up.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Thanks to all that replied to my question, twitch I especially liked your advice about trying out positions using pillows and not doing it ontop if it causes one pain.

It's true, that an understanding partner is a must so that they don't expect you to do things that are hard for you to do.

I guess telling ourselves we are lucky we can still achieve this helps as well. I mean some people can't at all like the ones that are paralyzed from the waist down.
deleted_user
deleted_user

haha this is kinda funny but me and my bf have sex ALL the time and Im fine..and many positions..I can move and he doest have to do all the work. I had the surgery last year....when did you have yours?
hfemale
hfemale

Also undergone spinal surgeries leading to rods in my back after scoliosis. My husband was not having good control on himself during sex. due to that i got a spinal problem within a few days as the jerks during sex lead pain in my spine. after a month of marriage out of control my husband put down his whole weight on me in missionary position, due to weight and jerks my spine broken.
later of that incidence it took 6 years to feel life again in my legs.
hfemale
hfemale

After breakdown of my spine, my husband left me and get married some other lady. before marriage i was independent, but now i can't earn, no helping hand is with me at present, as my parents died last year. now days am burden on unknowns for money and other needs.

marriage lead me from independent life to wheel chair for whole life, who sometime wish to beg for her needs or sometime not to live. my experience says that a person like me can live much more happier than marriage, earning for herself alone or could adopt baby.
jpjass
jpjass

@hfemale

where you from ?
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