
Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group
Rheumatoid arthritis is a chronic, inflammatory, multisystem, autoimmune disorder. It is a disabling and painful condition which can lead to substantial loss of mobility due to pain and joint destruction. The disease is also systemic in that it often also affects many extra-articular tissues throughout the body including the skin, blood vessels, heart, lungs, and...

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Does anyone else out there worry about the effects of RA on their relationships? I have been married to a wonderful wonderful man for a little more than a year. He is supportive and cares but sometimes doesnt get it. But how can he? I dont want to complain all the time although sometimes that is all i want to do, and i dont want to give the daily pain report. I want to be a great wife and mom but just cant do it sometimes. Does anyone else feel like their SO may resent them at times? Do you ever wonder what it would be like if the shoe was on the other foot and how you would feel if they were the one in pain?
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And do not get me started on the guilt when my kids want something from me, i am just physically not able to give at that time. They are young, they do not understand why mom can not go on a bike ride right now.
I have known my husband for 16 years. Together the last 9. He knew what he was getting...and still...Things have been so bad.
Yesterday when I saw the Rheamy, I begged him to go with me. then I go and spent over 4 hours there. They did so many test. And before I left, He put me on blood thinners and told me I have to take them the rest of my life. I left in tears. I called my husband at work. And he just...He was feeling guilty for not going with me. And I wanted him there and needed him...But I do not want him to have to "deal with it all" too. Does that make any sense?
I love him. I love my kids. I want them to have joy, not the stress, worry, pain, etc..
I don't want to burden my husband with this, because he has so much going on. I am having a tough time dealing with the RA and him being away. I can feel this pulling us apart. When he does get home, I am worried if he can really handle this or not.
RA isn't just my problem, it's his now too.
I wont lie though all the medical terminology that comes out of my mouth can frustrate him at times LOL.
You are saying your husband is a wonderful, wonderful man and you two signed on the dotted line in marriage til death do us apart and for better or worse so I think he will understand if you talk about your RA.My wife has Lupus and other things wrong with her and before I was diagnosed with RA I didn't know what she was going through but was there for her when she needed me.I don't think you have anything to worry about.
One more thing I have to say in your message is where you are saying put ones shoe on ones other foot! You are so right!!! I use that phrase all the time! April take care! Natman