Hi, first of all, I just wanted to say congratulations on your engagement! Don't worry about the way you're feeling, I think everyone who first gets engaged go through the same fears like you. This is how I dealt with those same fears when I realized that I was gonna finally take that big step. Whenever those fears crept in my gut, I go and take time for myself and I say a little prayer and ask God if this is it, if he is really the one let me know. Then I look into my husband's (bf back then) eyes and see if he truly loves me the same. Girl, the EYES never lie. You can tell a great deal about a person if you look deep into their eyes. I hope this helps. God Bless!!!

I wonder if there is maybe an underlying issue here. Do you have interest in other men? When I first got engaged to my ex husband I never had a fear of being committed to him for the rest of my life. Unfortunately he left me for another woman.

Make sure you are really ready to commit before you take the plunge. Marriage is not a joke and divorce should not be an option. If you think that is the way out if the commitment is too much you should save the time, money and pain you and your fiance will go through.

Just a thought. You could be just having a little anxiety about marriage that will go away in time.

I feel the same way. I am 23 and my fiance is a good guy. I still dont think we are ready and our wedding is a month away. I was always a person who thought love conquered all, but i think i was wrong. He is older than i am ....he is 29. So he seems ready, but sometimes i think i can tell he isnt. i dont know what to do.

first congratulations! doubts and fears are only natural. it's totally understandable to question and wonder. take the step in faith and belief that this is the one for you. to wonder about the vast uncertainty of the future will drive you crazy. before you know it you will be celebrating your 50 anniversay and laughing about why you were worried in the first place! it will be hard no doubt but love will win.