My original wedding ring was cut-off before the affairs ever happened, due to a broken hand. I replaced the ring myself about 8 months later, (during the beginning of a long term affair by my H), with a band I bought at department store on sale and in a hurry. He bought another wedding ring because of weight gain, on spur of the moment shopping trip with me, after he had stopped the affairs, but before he confessed his adultery to me. I see these rings as a symbol of trouble in our marriage. I told him last night about how I felt about these rings, in the same words i have used here. He suggested that I not wear my ring, but asked if it was because I did not want to be married? After a year of working on this marriage, I was shocked by his question, and just sort of clammed up because he did not "hear" what I was saying to him. This morning he called and said we should buy new rings. I know he meant well, but that is not the response I wanted from him. I am looking for the rings to "mean something" to both of us. What should I say and/or do from here? any and all suggestions are welcomed.
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