I discoverd that my H was having an affair before Christmas this year. A lot has change since. One being that I was diagnosed with Non Hodgkins Lymphoma in February. He continued to see the OW and would come home a couple of days a week. This continued for months. His family was very against this affair to begin with, but now with the cancer it became a different story for them. One night, actually the night before I started my first chemo, got a call from the ow and she was crying saying that my h had left her house. He came home a little while later and has stayed home since. I never asked him to stay or anything after my diagnosis, so him being home is his choice. We have gotten into many fights, because the ow still wants to be involved. She buys him things and even had the gaul to get him blank cd's so that he could burn music for her on my computer. He says that they are as done as can be the only thing is that they still work together at a restraunt and it's second shift. When he comes home late I worry. When I find things that she has either given or written to him I freak. I am trying to trust again, but after everything it is hard. I have since discovered that her ex of 6 years has been in the picture since the affair with my husband started. Like I said on the nights he'd be home (sleeping on the couch)her ex would be there at her house. And I just found out that she went on vacation to her families cottage to the U.P. with the ex. I know I shouldn't care what she does, but I won't talk to my ex about these things, because I don't want to push him either further away or closer to her. One more question... he sleeps on the couch and one time he came into bed and slept on top of the covers. Now I don't want to have sex yet, because I am not ready, but how do you make it o.k. for him to feel comfortable in sleeping in the same bed as me?
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