I found out that my husbands has been seeing his secretary again- even though they are in different work places now. Th first time ended after 3 mos, then restarted in March - and was going strong.
We did counseling, took trips to build new memories, bought a pop up camper to get out more...
I told her she can have him.
This is the 3rd time (2x same woman).
He claims he doesn't want to spend his life with her- that is was just about sex (which I have worked very hard on to be creative and responsive) but at a face to face meeting with the 3 of us yesterday- he back[eddled and denied saying it (to say her feelings..!!!!!!!!)
Anyway- I am a loser in this game.
I hope the rest of you have happy endings.