
Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
Rebuilding self esteem & confidence

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I am new to this site and am excited to get & give advice on a topic unfortunately we are all dealing with. I found out 7 1/2 mo ago that my husband was having an affair with an 18 yr old family friend. The relationship began when my son was 2 weeks old lasting for 3 months until I found out. One of the biggest things I'm struggling with is my self esteem, body image, & confidence. I've always had an athletic build, been charismatic, & confident. He stripped me of that by being with someone much younger right after I had given birth to his son. Does anyone of any advice or a similar story??
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Take care, take GOOD care of yourself.
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In life we will be injured sretched, scared. My grandmother is a survivor of breast cancer. We were told she only had a 10% chance of living. She had a mastectomy I posted these sites for you to see how beautifull we are even thought we are not perfect. We are all beautifull.
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