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A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.

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My young adult children were all pretty shocked at my affair, but very supportive. The two youngest I think were the most hurt. The youngest, 17, took it pretty hard and has had trouble coming to terms with her mother doing something so terrible. Today we had the best talk about it that we have had yet and she said some things to me that really let me know that she has forgiven me. I think that our whole family has come out of this mess feeling closer, stronger, and better able to face the future. I think that all of the family is so very impressed with how my H has himself during this past few months, and I think they are proud of me, not for what I did, but for what I am doing now.
I am so proud of them all and feel so lucky to have such a great family. How could I ever have thought i'd be happy anywhere else??? Boy, was I dumb.
I am so proud of them all and feel so lucky to have such a great family. How could I ever have thought i'd be happy anywhere else??? Boy, was I dumb.
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