I have been trying to rebuild our marriage for the past year. I put all my energy into relationship. She says I have been doing everything right, she says it her that has to accept all my efforts. We are 13 months post affair and 1 year after she left me for 8 days. When she left I delt as if my world had ended, I was depressed and withdrawn, had an empty feeling inside. I had thoughts of harming myself and called helpline. When she came back we did counseling for 4 months, C said we were doing great. We renewed our vows in March and we continued to make progress, though it was slow we were still going forward, about 3 months ago it slowed and then she said she did not want to have sex anymore, we still do but not much. It went from 3-4 time a week to once a week. We still hug and kiss passionately. She says she wants to be by my side. She says she enjoys everything we do together. She is not the agressor in any of it though. I start the kissing and hugging, I am the one who says I LOVE YOU first. I tell her how much she means to me, Thats she is beautiful and how soft her skin feels and how much I enjoy touching her. I do about half the housework. I know I won't be able to get back the love we once had. I just feel as though I not doing enough.
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