Me and my H had an argument last night about me wanting to spend time with him. He feels he has no time to just be him and be an individual. He works a ton and goes to school so there is not much time left. We had been doing really good. My H said he cheated for sexual reasons because basically we were only intimate like once a month. I did not understand then how important sex is in a marriage. Since our healing has begun I have been having sex with him almost everyday bur I am the one always starting it. I decided to not start it for a while to see what would happen and so then nothing happened. I asked him why he was not trying to be intimate with me and he said he has just had lots on his mind and has been busy. That was how I was thinking back when the cheating was going on. Those are just excuses, I know, because I once used them. I do not understand if sex was so important to cheat why is he not seeking it from me now? I am very confused. It scares me that is he cheating again? Or is it my own insecurities putting things in my head? I do not want to go back to the way things were before with us no sex and basically living separate lives because we were both always so exhausted. I am scared that if we do not put us first and and make sure to connect at least 5 minutes everyday that we will slip away again. By the way the argument last night was not over sex it was just about me wanting to cuddle with him but he wanted to do some things on the computer. Am I being to demanding? Has anyone had to deal with this finding time to make sure you are connecting with each other while staying individuals? Any help would be appreciated.
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