How do you make that leap and truly trust your spouse again. I am about 6 1/2 months into this and it seems like I am always worrying. We are working on our marriage and for the most part things are pretty good. He is home, we cuddle, we are intimate, we do things together. He seems sorry for what he did and for what he put me through. He tries hard to make me feel better, he says all the right things. We are slowly getting through the questions I have and it seems to help. But he gets upset if something comes up and I ask him about it. Most of the time he is able to explain it away. But how many times will things come up and how can I trust him when they do. He doesn't seem to make that connection. He knows he doesn't deserve to be trusted, he know he has to make everything right, but I am not supposed to say anything if I think it is out of sorts. The last thing was when something came up, I asked to see his phone, it was in his car. When he went out to get it, he was gone longer than he should. When I looked out the window he was paging through his phone. When he saw me he jumped and came in. So what am I supposed to think? I am almost over the past, but it is harder to deal with the past when I keep thinking it is still happening or will happen again. I told him if he had nothing to hide he wouldn't be worried about what is on his phone. He has gotten a new phone since D Day and technically no one is supposed to have the number or his new email. However he has received phone calls from one OW and a text from another. The text came in Jan. (D Day was in Oct) and the text read "Miss your touch already". To me it sounds like he just saw her. Not to mention he was late coming home from work that night. He said no. He hadn't seen anyone and talks to no one. Am I wrong to worry or am I fool to believe him. I want to believe him, I love him, we have history and children and I want it to work with him. I prefer to post here in a more positive setting with people trying to make it work.
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