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How do I stop my negative thoughts?

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This is an answer to that question from Rhonda Byrne the author of 'The Secret':"If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer,because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!
When you try to stop negative thoughts,you are focusing on what you don't want-negative thoughts- and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them.
The truth is alway simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts,just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day.Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.
So don't give any attention to negative thoughts. Don't worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now."

If you have any books, articles, quotes to share on this topic please share them with all of us... We need as much encouragement as possible....
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That is awesome!
Good for us all to do!
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I was talking to my H about this tonight at dinner. I really need to work on my attitude and thinking positive. I find myself in this black hole of anger, bitterness, & with thoughts of "how could this happen to me...I'm a good person". It's causing my healing to go backwords. I need to read your words of encouragement often, because you're right....I have my health, a beautiful son, & a husband who is fighting for me. There are so many things to be blessed about, we all need to stop every day and look at all of the great things we've got going. Thank you!
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Wow, that is good advise. I have found that the horrible thoughts fester in my head for a day or two and turn into a huge problem for my H and I. Jrsygrl is right if I try to fight them off I am allowing them to consume too much of my being. I had tried the whole "imagining a stop sign" thing and found it to only help for a short time. It makes way better sense to just plan good thoughts, that way there is no time to think bad ones!!! Great advise...thanks. I really needed it right now.
Mac
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I try to do this everyday. I write down what I am grateful for, what I am working on, or what inspires me. I do believe that we bring into our lives what we think about, so I have really tried to keep the positive thoughts rolling. Some days are hard, but by writing down what i am thankful for, I seem to lose a lot of what i am unthankful for. Great Post, thank you, for the inspiration today, I needed it!
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I love it when I read an encouraging and positive post -- and I have been searching for one today since I really need it!! So thank you, thank you, thank you all for sharing good energy and good strategies for shaking off those black, destructive thoughts.
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love you jrsy!! Hey, have you met songs?? she does that daily AND in a LIST... you, two, are awesome with your positive outlook.
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WITH CHOCOLATE AND RED WINE!!!!!
Just kidding. Although that is my favorite, I give my self positive things to do. I make a list. I'm a list person. When I'm down and can't seem to get those nasty thoughts out of my head I give myself a list of things to do. Sometimes it's a jobs list or somethings to do for myself. I check things off. i feel accomplished and my mind has been else where for awhile. Then at night, i say a silent prayer in my head of all the things I'm happy and thankful for. I often fall asleep, cause it goes on and on. I always thank God in the morning for helping me go to sleep. It's better than counting sheep or thinking of them together.
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