I'm about 10 months after D-Day. My H's trist was with an escort from a website who advertised as being "a sweet and classy companion who knows how to be naugthy." She was seeking a well mannered generous gentleman. He met her on two occassions, bought her gifts, and wined and dined her. I've seen all the emails - she did a great job of keeping him interested by sending naked pictures, and my favorite, "Next time you go to the beach write my name in the sand and send it to me." YUK! She was a player and he fell right into it. Anyway, I've decided to stay and make things work. He is committed to repairing our relationship, and we have both searched ourselves and made improvements. We've been enjoying each other very much and have rediscovered our love for each other. Here's my two questions - I did speak to the OW, but found myself being firm, but not angry. That was before I saw the emails...now, I want to get in touch with her and blast her! She told me how sorry she was, and never intended to break up a marriage, but yet she's on the internet advertising for the next sucker. So, how do I rid myself of the need to want to contact her after all this time? I know it's not worth it but I need some reinforcement. My other question is - each time we have a small misunderstanding (which are very few thank goodness), I always find a way to make it relative to the infidelity. No matter what it is, I can make it relevent. I don't want to bring it up, but I feel like he has no right to argue with me on anything because I forgave him and took him back. I'd love some advice on both.
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