I need someone's opinion. It has been 2 years since DDay. Memories still fresh when triggered. My husband and I IM each other back and forth during the day. Just a way to keep in touch. He has recently been playfully talking dirty to me via IM. I love that he is doing that with me, as we are trying to keep the spark alive and "fun" in our marriage. The only probalem is, is that he did this with HER all the time. He would be on his computer at night and would be IMing her. He would close out the minute I would walk in the room. She told me herself that they did alot of dirty talk and inappropriate things via IM. Now he is doing it with ME and I am flattered, but it IMMEDIATELY brings up memories of THEM doing it and makes me sick to my stomach immediately. Do I tell him I just can't do this with him right now? It is still too painful? OR...do I try to put it out of my mind and try to create NEW memories of HE and I doing this? Maybe OUR "Playful" talk can drown out his/my memories of THEM doing it. I hate that SHE ruins everything I try to re-build as memories of her sluttyness still haunts me. He NEEDs a sexual outlet. I have learned that over the years. I want to give that to him. It is just THIS that triggers that sick feeling. What would you do?
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