so i wonder that when people get past the spouses affair and return to normal (so to speak) do they then leave DS? if not, how long did it take you to recover as a betrayed spouse? my wife and i are doing really well. as i have learned from others, with her too she seems to be fine. it seems easier for the betrayer to recover once given a second chance. i am a lot better but for the most part am just flat, or lacking of emotion, generally sad when not with her. i wonder why i am only happy (most times) when with her? is it that when we are together i know she is not with another man, making that error a second time? or am i now appreciating the marriage more and enjoy being with her because we talked so much about what we both were missing and really got closer even after 18 years of marriage and really worked at both improving where we were missing pre-affair? is this normal, or is there a normal. i used to seem happy, but i wonder if i really was and just need to get used to now a good marriage where before maybe we really did not have a good marriage and i enjoyed not being with her a lot, like golfing, hanging with my neighbor, etc...i am very confused with where i am right now, but maybe this is normal. maybe this will be as good as it gets for me. anyone else like this?
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