I was going to reply on another persons post in another topic. But I had to much to say and do not want to hog someone elses topic. So I am going to say everything here. Talking with someone has helped me. No one knows but the people on this discussion that my husband cheated on me. My family would just about cut him up into little pieces and hide him in the ozark mountains if they found out. Yes I have personally gone to anger counseling. When I firt started dateing my husband he was in the middle of a divorce and had just broke up with a woman who was his girl friend and had cheated on him. We had moved in together after a week. We decided we loved each other. The first time I met her she was 6 months pregnant and drunk off her rear end. She knocked on my door and tryed to start a fight between me and my husband. She told me how do you feel that I am about to have your boy friends baby. I eventually called the police. This woman continued in our lives. This puerto rican psyco, was absolutely sure that my husband was the father. She bribed one of my close friends talk me into letting my husband come over to her house. She said that we could do our laundry in her washer and made friends with us. At this time she was dating my husbands couisn. She went to pick him up from work this is after her baby was born and I at this time was 7 months pregnant. My husband went with her to get his cousin when she was alone in the car with him she told him that she still loved him. This didnt float well with me. After this a week later he goes up to visit his soon to be ex wife to see his little girl. We end up sleeping in her living room. We took his daughter to the zoo and she came along and walked next to him I felt like the thrid wheel behind them. I felt like I was always competeing with someone else. He ended up putting the divorce decree in my lap on valetines day and said will you mary me. I wanted to wait and save up money for a ring so I told him yes. But you need to buy me a ring before I marry you. He ended up blowing all the money on scratch off tickets. Pretty gay huh? During the divorce the mother got custody of their child. The first day his daughter was gone he said it was all my fault so I got mad and left since it made me angry. He found me at a friends house and appologized and asked me to come back home so I did. After a while I had our daughter, we were really happy. Everyone showered us with gift and money for the baby. Soon my hubby gambled that off to on a computerised slot machiene in a convienience store. So we got evicted and my mom drove from SanAntonio Texas all the way to dallas texas and moved us in one day and night. Then went to work the next day. We moved in with my mother. I took ahold of our finances and started to pay off debt that occured due to his stupidity. It took us a year and a half to pay everything off. He whined and cryed about not having money to blow and every chance he got blew money left and right every sneeky chance he got. Then my mother confronted him. After my mother got ahold of him he has become very good with his money. He whines all the time about how we moved and how he didnt want to move. His daughter came for her first summer visit that year. It was horrible. The little girl told me that she was being sexualy abused and was very clear about it. I called child protective services. The child cussed at me she hated being around me and hated me. It was very rough my husband was never around his daughter because he was working around the clock to pay off back child support and debt. This is around the time he cheated on me and we got into that fight. He called me a cunt and threatened to take the children from me. I found out I was pregnant right when his daughter came to visit. I didnt know I thought I was just sick and ended up being 6 months pregnant instead. I found out because I woke up in a puddle of blood. I thought i was dieing so I went to the doctor. Ended up I had placenta previa and there was no intercourse allowed. After our fight I went into labor and we learned that we were having a boy when they stoped my labor. HIs daughter left soon after that and went back home to her mother who was very mad at me. Becuase I had called child protective services and her registered sex offender grandfather was arrested for beign alone with the little girl. My husband cheated on me in the middle of all this. I confronted her the other woman and she said that he was lousy and all there was was a little bit of oral and he didnt do anything else with her. But I still feel betrayed and upset. He has been good with it and has put up with me being angry at him. He said he wants to renew our vows. I agreed to it. I am starting to forgive him but am still upset. I stood by his side through everything. I don't believe him when he says we are going to get remarried. He never bought me and engagement ring untill this year when we got our tax return. Im pissed off in general and I probably need some one to talk sense into me. I cant talk to my family thought because they get violent. What am I supposed to do I love him and he told me today that he wants to be with me and start over. My trust is ruined and now I am stuck in the middle of love and anger. I don't know what to choose.
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