...like..they made it seem like it wasn't..like it was...sex...like you wanted it...and if you didnt....like it was your fault...like it was all your fault?

i feel as if it was my fault... but i no it wasnt!! they shouldnt make you feel like that hunny... i'm sorry. If u wanna talk about anything, im here. xxx

i had some people try and say that. but most of the time, i know better!

i feel like it is sometimes and some people still tell me it was my fault and that i was asking for it

You are sooo not alone. Fault is such a pain to work through. The mind keeps going back and convincing you that had you done this or that it would've turned out different. ((((((hugs girl))))) do not take on your abusers shame. I know, easier said than done. I am with ya ... issues2

they told me it was my fault every time... that I deserved it... not because they thought of it as sex but because they saw me as a lower life form that they could do with whatever they wanted.

my family did that. they dont talk about it anymore....they make like it never happened. ...it sucks cuz the matter closed with me being the bad guy.

same with my family... all rejected me except 1 brotherand they give him a hard time for still being in contact with me.

you've got a good bro.

Hi, I'm new here - but yeah - I talked to two people high up in my church and they both said I had sinned a big sin and told me I wasn't allowed to be mad at God because I had brought it on myself. Needless to say I didn't go back for a while.

Hey I grew up going to church - That's so wrong of anyone to tell you that! I can't think of one place in the bible where it tells you that it's okay for other people to sin against you if you brought it on yourself. I'm only me, not God, but I believe he loves you and is hurt when people make choices to hurt each other. I think what that church told you is SO wrong! I'm not perfect but I know that if someone else decides to hurt me that doesn't make it my fault - it makes it their sin. Life is all about choices... choose to be forgiven, you're loved on here XXXXX

the people that raped me go to church every week and go to confession every so many months, it is compulsary for them when being part of the national police.... I often wonder if they will go to heaven because a priest forgives all the horrible things they do?

my dad told me it was my own fault that i got raped because i walked alone. but the only reason i walked alone was because i didn't want to have to bother him to come pick me up. i'll never forgive him for saying that.

Yes.

yeah, i was. blamed.