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will I ever WANt sex again?

deleted_user
deleted_user
I was raped 2 years ago and I am married. My husband was great through the whole thing and is truely my best friend.....our sex life has never been the same since. We are intimate, yes, but it takes alot of effort on my part and most the time I just do not want to have anything to do with sex. When will this change? I love him and am attracted to him, I trust him completely but It is so different now.Any suggestions on how totear down this wall?
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deleted_user
Yes I think you will, but it took me a long time of unhappy sex before I found I was into it. You are very lucky to have such a great guy and he sounds like he would be supportive in this. Have you tried going away kid free somewhere romantic and taking it from there? Being very sensual rather than overtly sexy might help, it did for me. Adding stress to yourself about it though wont help I am sorry to say. Do yu have a fav place, maybe somewhere where you went while you were dating you could revisit and see it those feeling revisited you?
Thats my advice, I hope it helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hey,

i'm kind of going through the same thing. my boyfriend has been great through it all, but it takes a lot of effort for me to clear my head and get into it. it's been 3 years for me and it's getting better. i think in my case i wasn't actively trying to work through my rape and just joining this support group has really helped me. i don't knwo if you've gotten help or whatnot. sooner or later you'll be able to tear down pieces of the wall. i have hope and confidence in that. :-) good luck!

xoxo
Banffgal
Banffgal
I feel excatly the same way as you. I was raped 1 1/2 years ago. I've been in my relationship for three years and right now I fell I could go the rest of my life with out sex.
The book that has been helping me alot is called "The Jounrey to Sexual Healing". I got it at amazon.com. It has made me come to terms with how I am feeling and has been the biggest help of all to me. It's hard to talk about this probelm with anyone. Even my councler I have a hard time talking about my sex life...

This book has really helped me feel not alone with this situation.
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