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why do you think people rape?
what makes them think that doing this to someone is okay?
what do you think?
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Men (or indeed women) who do this are looking to have control. They are wanting, for some reason, control over someone else. It may be down to their own insecurities, their past, their issues, their health, their sexual fantasies (and I'm not talking legitmate fantasies between willing partners).

But I feel it is about control and ego. The guy who attacked me - well from what i gathered from the attack he was turned on by S and M style sex, but it seemed that he wanted it to be more 'real' by me not being willing. ( Indeed I was never willing to do anything with him let alone S and M) He wanted to be completely in control and do what he wanted.

I will never know why fully he felt the need to do this. But control seems to be the driving force for these people.
Shai
Shai
i have no idea..."control" has been said to be the main thing they want...but i still feel it's s*x that they want. "so how do you explain spouses who cheat?"

no idea.

my ex is the only "abuser" i know. the others were strangers...when i asked him "why"...his answer was, "i thought that if i got you pregnant, you wouldn't leave me"...??

he knew that i had been "abused" before (during our relationship)...and he promised he'd never do this to me...but when i told him i wanted "out" he felt the NEED to do this to make me stay?

it's confusing. and i agree with Vanity...i don't think we'll ever REALLY KNOW what's going through their minds...we'll never REALLY KNOW the reasons "why"...
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I agree with the other to posters, however I'll throw this one out too alot of offenders have an abusive past of their own someone abused as a child will most likely be an abuser themselves. Thats not to say they're behavior is right. Its appalling. Hope this helps!
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i was sitting in behavioral science the other day when i thought of this...since all that has been on my mind is the rape that happened wednesday night.......
and i am trying to figure out why people can do this...
is it because of the theory of the "will to power"?(when someone will do absolutely anything to gain control)
or is it beacuse they were abused themselves and maybe still are?
or is it because of an exposure to rape pronography?
i dont know.....these things run through my head
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