Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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Why Is It...?

Shai
Shai
"It was not a coincidence ... that "no" and "know" sounded the same. You were supposed to be able to say the magic word, and that was enough to make your wishes - or lack of them - crystal clear. But no one had ever said "yes" to make sex consensual. You took hints from body language, from the way two people came together. Why, then, didn't a shake of the head or a hand pushing hard against a chest speak just as loudly? Why did you have to actually say the word "no" for it to be r*pe?"

- "The Tenth Circle" by Jodi Picoult (pg. 373, p.2)

what if you couldn't say "no"? what if your mouth was covered, or you were gagged? what if you just froze and didn't say "no"? what if you passed out? what if...what if...what if...?

would it still be r*pe?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, body language, fighting, ect means NO..the vebal no doesn't have to be spoken.

LOVE YA SHAE...Becky
thegoober
thegoober
if there was negative body language on your part that means no you dont have to say no for people to understand there are plenty of other ways to say no.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hon, even if you say yes, do your whorish best, and have a better orgasm than ever before, it is still rape if you are under duress or threat.

If you are denied the opportunity or the right to say no, it is rape.

There was a case where a woman agreed to have sex with a man because that man's friend threatened her life and her child. Both were convicted of rape, despite the video of the woman saying yes and actively participating.

No means no, spoken or not.
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