Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Hi all,
I haven't been to this board in a long time, but I figured now is the time since I am back in a relationship (a good one).
When I was 16 years old, I was raped by a guy I met over the internet. Since then, my life has been in turmoil with a whole slew of crap that I can't even begin to go over in this post. But the thing is, I know a lot of the things have to do with the rape, but I can't directly connect them. Like my Eating Disorder. It started right after the rape and continues to this day, but I just can't put two and two together.
And another thing. This, I know, is odd, but... I am sorta promiscuous. In a dangerous way. I'm ashamed of it, but I want to know if it has to do with my rape. In fact, I think it does, but again, I'm not sure how the two connect. They seem like opposites. Why would I react to a rape by sleeping with anyone who wants me?
Any suggestions as to why I am this way?
Licorice
I haven't been to this board in a long time, but I figured now is the time since I am back in a relationship (a good one).
When I was 16 years old, I was raped by a guy I met over the internet. Since then, my life has been in turmoil with a whole slew of crap that I can't even begin to go over in this post. But the thing is, I know a lot of the things have to do with the rape, but I can't directly connect them. Like my Eating Disorder. It started right after the rape and continues to this day, but I just can't put two and two together.
And another thing. This, I know, is odd, but... I am sorta promiscuous. In a dangerous way. I'm ashamed of it, but I want to know if it has to do with my rape. In fact, I think it does, but again, I'm not sure how the two connect. They seem like opposites. Why would I react to a rape by sleeping with anyone who wants me?
Any suggestions as to why I am this way?
Licorice
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I think that they are all related, EDs are often related to subconcious psychosexual immaturity (wanting to stay childlike, not wanting to develop into a woman's sexual body). EDs are common after rape because they thrive on low self esteem.
As for being promiscuous I have generally found that girls go either way: being promiscuous or not having sex at all. I was one of the latter but you are DEFINATLEY not alone, I have spoke to loads of people on here who are the same. Promiscuity is a product of lonliness, and again a lack of self worth, and sex is a short term fix of feeling loved.
I'm here if you need to chat honey, hope your ok x x x and good for you for finding a good relationship, im here if you need any support x
P.S: Good to see you back here again!