
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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Is it ever your fault? Can the way you dress or act make someone rape you? Is it ok to flirt or tease and not expect to be raped? Or are those things making it your fault? Whose really to blame?
Is it ever your fault? Can the way you dress or act make someone rape you? Is it ok to flirt or tease and not expect to be raped? Or are those things making it your fault? Whose really to blame?
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On 12/08/07, 08:36am NikiT wrote:
Considering your a counsellor I am incredibly disappointed and dismayed at your response to the question, "is it my fault"?!?
it is the rapist's fault. he/she has the problem.
you have the right to dress how you want to dress, drink whatever you want to drink and how ever much of it you want to drink, you have the right to kiss anyone, and even to mess around with them a little. you could have done everything but sex, and then said no to sex. and if he still went for it, it is rape.
i believe guilt and self-blame is something that some rape survivors struggle with the most, and i hope that you accept quickly that you are not the one with the problem, he is, and you should not place any of the blame on yourself. you did nothing wrong. please do not listen to anyone that tells you otherwise.
take care.
The way you dress or behave makes *no* difference - after all, we know that it happens to very young children as well as women in their eighties, would you say any of them had "asked for it"?
I've got friends (both male and female) who flirt and joke with me all the time, but I'm not going to read that as a serious invitation. Rape is about power, not about being 'invited' anywhere.
the fault of the VICTIM !!
A rapist who rapes someone who is drunk is someone who thinks they can get away with it easier, and will rape someone just as quickly if the victim is sober.
Never ever is it the fault of the victim.