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when you stop saying no

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if you stop saying no, and learn to just accept the fate that is before you, is it still rape? when the body screams NO, but the mind is too afraid to even whisper it, for fear of what will happen if you do, is it still rape? when you have given up and given in, and find pleasure in pleasing, simply because that is what you are made to do, is it still rape?
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Yes. Plain and simple. Rape isn't about SAYING yes or no. It's about giving CONSENT. The fact of the matter is...when someone gives in...or physically says no...or anything like that...honey that's not giving consent. It's like the examples of the women that are raped when they are drugged or drunk..they may not have physically said no...but they didn't give consent either..and that's rape.
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even when you stop or dont get the chance to say no it is still rape. it is even more so considered rape when you are so afraid of what will happen to you. then there just comes a time when youjust give up and you can not fight, and just begin not to care what will happen and then it becomes a routine that you are almost addictetd to and you wonder and question if it is rape because being raped and treated like an object is all that you have been known as. I have been with my husband for 9 1/2 years now and there are many times that i really wonder why he is in my life because he does not treat me like an object. let me know if this helps. :)
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