legally... in most states anyway ... forcible penetration with ANY object counts as rape.

and i'm so sorry that this has happened to you. *hugs*

I agree with snow - this was rape definately. Hope your ok and im sorry you had to suffer that.

Feel free to message me at any time, were all here for you xx

thankyou, and i did look it up, and in england, "digital penetration" (as i now know its called) is classed as rape. its strange to think that he raped me because i never thought of it like that, but now i think back, it was brutal and he deserves to be called a rapist!
im not sure if im too late to put him in jail because i feel like even if i could (it was 8 years ago), they wouldnt have any evidence excpet my word against his so i dont know, and that would be a big step because i still havent told anyone (let alone the police) that it happened!
thankyou for your responses, i appreciate them!

legal or not....you were viloated. rape is violation. it...god this makes me angry. why cant...
ugh...never mind.

I am pretty sure it is not too late to report it. Do not worry about proof or anything. Go ahead and tell someone. Can you start with family or a friend?

I'm almost certine that in most countries there is not staute of limitations on child abuse, so depending on your curcimstances you should still be able to press charges against this monster. Good luck sweetie.

Can you reach out and tell your mum? I would start with a safe family member and go from there but please follow up on this. You have feeling that need to be heard.

The first time I was rapped, I had the same question. Most of my memory of that time was black. I remembered that he forced his hands in me....but I didn't know if he used his penis or not. I talked to a rape crisis line, and the person told me that in most states that using hands is considered rape, however, some states call it sexual abuse. Either way, it is wrong and it completely sucks!!! Be well!

i know i should tell someone, and i will, ive been wanting to forever and i think ive found the right person to tell,i would trust her with my life, i trust her more than i trust any other person in this universe. ive been thinking about it, and just telling one person, to let them know, would help me soooooo much, just so someone knows what im going through, i dont expect her to fix everything but just to relieve the pressure a little bit, that make sense?
i will tell her, i promised that to myself a few months ago and im going to keep that promise.
im glad that i joined this group, it helps to know im not on my own anymore!

I heard that the law on statutes of limitations was lifted..but in any case, you were hurt in the most terrible way and for that my heart breaks for you.Talking to someone is going to be the begining of your healing.My mom knew and my 1st husband but no one else knew. Until my current husband.My 1st husband couldnt handle it and we divorced. My husband now is and angel and we have been together for almost 8 years. He saved my sanity.I never talked about it on here but I know that you will have tons of support. All you can use.Hugs and prayers of peace to you.DJ

I am so happy you have someone to talk too. it makes perfect sense that you want to relieve the pressure, I am sure you feel eaten up inside. if you ever want to talk anomalously we are here for you. Hugs.