Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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Trust, rage, self hatred...

Goldie75
Goldie75
I was raped when I was 16, I am now 32. It is funny how it seems so long ago but the effects of it are present in many aspects of my life.

It has made me not trust men. It has made me angry at being a woman because being a women means that one can be taken advantage of. It means that the judicial system still protects the criminals not the victims.

I became bulimic after being raped, severely depressed, always angry at having a body that had been tainted, angry at feeling so bloody powerless, angry at not being believed, angry at people around me for telling to get over it and move on!

Does anyone ever truly forget and move on?

What angers me most is that I am left to pick up the pieces after someone screwed everything up. The rapist goes one and lives unaffected and the "victim" pays the price forever!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
goldie... everything you're saying is so true. i hear you girl. i think anger is sometimes the only thing to feel. i'll keep you posted on the "moving on" - not there yet. but i agree, i hate everyone who thinks we should have already. and i hate that yes, that this force crosses your path, turns your life upside down, and keeps going and you are left with a new life to contend with. who was that guy? who the hell am i now? as you can see, got a bit o anger m'self. we've got this punching bag at work (i work with youth), and it has been amazing for me.... :) all my support...r
deleted_user
deleted_user
I completely agree and understand that feeling.

SA
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think I'll ever forget and i don't think i'll ever stop feeling anger at the mere thought of it, but I feel I have moved on some and hopefully more as time goes by... after anger comes acceptance and the learning. Its too much/complicated to go into detail here about what i learnt from each experience and besides, we each have our own road to travel. What i can say is that it has made me a stronger person in the long run. By the way... those people telling you to get over it and move on? Tell them you will get over this block in your OWN time! I would choose not to talk to them about it anymore unless they bring up the subject. Only talk about it to people who can empathize with you maybe? Much peace and light.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I completely understand where you are coming from. I haven't felt the anger yet, I don't know why. The justice system does suck and needs to change. I too hate hearing people say get over it and move on. I am trying but I haven't had any luck. Sorry wish I could help you.
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