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Threat Level?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello all. :)

I was laying down to sleep, when I thought about this.

See, I'm aware many of you see men as threatening due to what they did, and seeing them that way is rational. I was just wondering if a tall guy seems more threatening than a small guy to you girls?

I ask this because I'm a very short guy. I'm 5' 3" and 19 years old. I work out a lot to make up for it, but I'm sure I still appear much less threatening. I hope that's the case, because I never want to be mistaken as one of those men, no, monsters that would hurt you.

I look 13, as well, even though I'm 19. I consider it a gift, really, since it means women are more willing to be friends with me without fear. I hope that's true, because I really enjoy the friendships I have with women.

The downside is that women don't feel as safe with me (as in me being able to protect them, but I work out and practice martial arts), so they tend to want to be friends, but no girl ever asks me out or says yes when I ask them. I'm okay with that, since I get paranoid in relationships anyway. I'd rather be small and single, with more friends, than tall and married with less friends.

Anyways, I was just wondering what you all feel regarding this question.

If I upset anyone by this topic, please let me know. I would never mean to do that.

Thanks in advance.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I guess I'm more likely to be scared of bigger guys... If they are my friends, then I like that they are big because then they can protect me. Usually, though, I feel threatened by larger guys. I don't think most women would consider you a threat. I think they'd feel safe with you, so you don't need to be worried about being mistaken for a monster. :)
Thriver
Thriver
I never thought about the fact that I found smaller guys more appealing. Maybe that is the reason.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's what I thought.

It works two ways for me.
1. women trust me more easily, and thus I can be friends quicker.

2. Men think I'm weak due to size (which is not true since I've been in dozens of fights and won all of them except one).
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