I won't talk your ear off with huge details. I'll just say this, my husband and I have had marriage problems for a while. A lot due to he is in the military and we have spent a lot of time apart, have two kids, I have anger and mood swing problems I am being treated for with a doctor and we both just aren't the most fair fighters with our words. But about two weeks ago I made a very large mistake. I was taking some psych drugs (nothing serious but shouldn't have drank on them) my husband told me it would be no big deal so I drank way more than I should have and he had friends over and I kissed one of his friends a couple times and he caught us. I will say a million times under the influence I felt I was under I didn't feel like myself but it was me, I made a huge mistake and I felt horrible. We went through a week of ups and downs from him wanting to divorce me, to ruining my makeup, cursing at me, to then us talking, me asking for forgiveness and us beginning to work it out even though it was tough. Well this weekend we went to an event and after a couple drinks (I have stopped drinking now completely and talked about it with a therapist just for reference)my husband was convinced I had been staring at the other guy (it was a military function so the other guy was there) and then I yelled at him in front of his friends, we argued on the way home and when we got home we fought and he ended up hitting me a few times, choked me, and well yeah raped me. It has been reported through his chain of command and he is in every counseling known to man and people are checking on me all the time, I have good friends. My question is, do you think it is ever possible to move past this in a marriage, get help, get over it and stay married? He is in counseling and we are supposed to start counseling next week but after what happened I don't know if I can move past it even though I do still love him and want our marriage to work but the other part wants to leave. Any advice? I am so confused. Thank you.
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