Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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this community is too much for me to handle.

does anybody else experience this? it becomes so triggering for me sometimes, and sad, and reminds me of hard times in my life.

i find myself needing to dip in and out of here. i want to help people and offer advice, but i have a habit of overextending, being too much of a caretaker, and sometimes i need to take a step (or two, or three) back.

i do want to contribute. because i know there'll be times when I need the help.

but when i can't give help, I just pray that somebody else here CAN.
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Can't we be here for each other? I am only new but I also have been triggered really badly once and have been struck several times by moving stories. Plus I have this need to pop in and out, to the point where I was lying in bed last night when I only had 3 hours to sleep wondering if I should get online! I am a caretaker by nature and I have this desperate need to help everyone who is having a hard time, not that I always have the right answers, but I can try. I have read a lot of your post's and I really appreciate what you have to say. Thank you
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I often found my own answers in other's issues. when I wrote a passionate response I'd ask myself whether I'd listen if I was telling me!! So yes it triggers and yes it is uncomfortable but we can't possibly know the answers to everyone elses issues or we would have no reason to be here!! (I hope that makes sense)I think it would be impossible to answer each reply in honesty and genuiness. Sometimes I would post a message because I was so low and a simple hug would make my day so much easier, but I didn't have the strength to comment and I didn't feel bad.

We are all here for each other and sometimes we have to yake more than we can give.

My advice to you is be your own caretaker and find your own limits. This is not a competion just a bloody good place to be yourself.

And I am sure that when you can't someone else can

Take care
Deb
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Deb your post rocked! YOu summed it all up for me. Thanks!
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