I personally dont know if that is such a good idea I saw my rapist after everything went down and it was the worst day of my life and i was so shaky i couldnt even look at him i would put my head down when i was near him. and i just cried and cried it was awful he just glared at me and kept staring me down. (it was at court)

I was offered to meet my rapist - in a controlled police environment- Initially I wanted to as I wanted him to understand what he had done and more importantly to explain why and that he was sorry. However given that he showed no remorse at any time and offered no expalnation at his trial I felt it would do more harm to me. If your assailant would be remorseful and apologise or explain, then maybe it would help. My understanding is that most perpetrators of sex crimes are not remorseful and would get a kick out of you still being distraught. I think it could possibly do more harm than good. I would still look for alternatives that will help you. I hope this helps and wish you better times for the future
Robynx

NO DO,NT CONTACT HIM.TIMES HEALS.

How long has it been? Was it a stranger rape? Do YOU feel that you are ready to face him face-to-face? Are you ANGRY enough or are you still fearful of him? Those are the questions that I would need to know the answers to before offering advice.

I did go see my rapist. I was violently raped in my own bed by a stranger who came thru a downstairs window. He pleaded guilty so I did not have to go thru the trial, thank God. I would attend his parole hearings, but did not have to see him. They would ask me questions about how he had changed my life, etc.

About ten years after the rape, I wanted to see him, but I no longer feared him. I was ANGRY at him and I just wanted to spit in his face. I needed to bring the whole thing full circle so I could move on.

At that time he had been there 10 years and looked like he had aged about 30. He was very quiet......... didn't even know who I was at first. I didn't have a lot to say, but I got my point across. I let him know that I KNEW how rapist were treated in prison and that I hoped he was raped EVERY DAY he was in there so he could feel the fear, the feeling of having no control, and the violation. I spoke fast but clear............ I had no fear of him whatsoever. I had what I had to say and left by telling him that I hoped he died in that prison as that he was not worth the tax payers money to keep him alive.

Did I feel better? You are DAMN right I did and have NEVER regretted my decision. How he looked spoke for itself. He obviously was not watching cable and enjoying the prison's library during his 10 years at that time (he got a total of 99 years). He looked used and abused and like a lost dog. A "dog" is not even the right metaphor as I love dogs.......... he looked like a man who had been beaten down in life.

Did he apologize? Did he show remorse? No. He said nothing. I never gave him a chance even had he had tried. In fact, when they first brought him out, I told him straight up to keep his mouth shut as I was charge this time and had no interest in hearing anything he had to say. I'm a pretty strong personality and by that time, 10 years had gone by........... so I was set on what that meeting would entail. He is the SCUM OF THE EARTH and I let him know it.

Unfortunately I couldn't spit in his face because he was behind a glass window........... just where an animal should be!