Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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saying the word

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I've been to counseling about the rape and told almost all of the story, but the one thing I have never said to anyone was "I was raped" or "he raped me". I feel like I need to in order to fully take control of what happened and move on from it. The only thing is, I'm having trouble getting up the courage to say it. I feel like I don't deserve to say it almost, like I'm being overdramatic. It wasn't extremely violent and didn't last long, and I got away not too long after it started & escaped. It was someone I knew. I know I'm going to cry and be upset when I say it and I hope my therapist doesn't think I'm being silly. I feel like I am sometimes. I'm scared to do this!
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i was in the same situation it took me almost ten years to say i was raped
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I know how you feel...I always kind of feel bad calling it rape because he wasn't trying to hurt me and I didn't say no (I was a little kid). I think it helps when you do say it, and then other people call it that too. It makes it feel a little more justified.
ScaredandScarred
ScaredandScarred
It is one of the hardest sentences to say but once you do you feel so relieved like a weight has gone.
Trust in yourself, you will be able to say it when you're ready *hug*
here if you ever need to talk
stay safe
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It's hard to admit that you have been raped b/c it's like your admiting that you were vunerable at one time. For some ppl it's being the vunerable part that is hard b/c you feel as though you have been to trusting w/ men and then the "if only" starts. You basiscally have to take a stand and say I'm getting through this I'm taking control of this situation and I'm not going to allow this man to have control over this like he had control over raping me. Stay strong and keep your faith strong. You will get through this. Best wishes.
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I have felt a lot like that......I have got to the point that I can say it but I still don't feel like I "deserve" to be able to use that phrase......you aren't alone chica, you can message me if you want to talk (((hugs)))
deleted_user
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My rape was 23 years ago. I don't know that I've EVER said "I was raped" in a sentence. I have ALWAYS said that I AM A SURVIVING VICTIM OF RAPE". Does that make it easier? I dunno........... but I feel that it also has a lot of feeling to it. I survived it............. some don't........... and I was a victim of rape.
deleted_user
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It is only four letters yet it feels like the entire world rests on it. Like if it is said out loud it will rip open reality, who i am and what i have accomplished in being here. having made it with out the help of family. I did it!
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