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therapists say that the first step to "healing" is accepting the problem and admitting to it.
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
Shai
sorry...the reason why this post is in this community is because this is what i start thinking about when i feel the need to start spending...
deleted_user
i do the same thing, i shop to forget about my pain, i buy my son everything to make up for me being so unstable for him, i just spend it even though i dont need or even want most of the thing i buy. Im in 8,000 of debt and im only 20. admitadly most of my money does go on alcohol, but again, that is to stop the pain, to forget about what the real issues in life are x
deleted_user
I do the same thing with work. I work stupid hours so I won't have to be alone with my head noise and then I get worn down and sick and have to stop and then the whole thing starts over. Its a horrid cruel cycle. With you its shopping thats all. Others cut, smoke or drink. Some types of coping could ruin us long term financialy and the others destroy our health. If your therapist doesn't understand you I would seek out another more competant one..... just my opinion.
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
