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people might think im lying!!!!

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Hi everyone...im new.

The assult happened on friday night/saturday morning.

I feel ok,but weird. (gonna talk pre-friday for a mo,because i dont know how i am now) Im usually very happy, very strong and pretty clear headed.


If a friend relative had been in my possition on friday, id be the first to say "call the police" but I just cant at the minute...i feel like it was my fault and that they wont believe me, or that it would help anyway. I have had some swabs taken, and they took my clothes for forensics...they'll keep them in case i do want to press charges.

at the moment, i just want to carry on as normal...im even going into college tomoz...gonna try and normalise things...hope that helps.

does anyone else feel like this??? Like, doubting that it even happened (I was at my mates house and asleep drunk,and woke up during the act-i feel like i did concent-even tho i didnt!!!its so weird) maybe it was my fault?? i feel guilty guilty guilty...i feel bad that other people feel bad for meee...im usually the strong one...

i keep thinking about it too...like flashbacks that make me cringe...and go quiet...

i dont know how to feel, or act...should i act ok or will people doubt me then??? its totally fucked up...

im anoid that this has happened...like an illness, its getting in the way...


i dont know...i feel a bit alone...i feel...i dunno how i feel.


sum1 please tell me im not going bonkers...lol


thanks for reading guys xxx
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You're not going bonkers. Would someone going bonkers had the foresight to have gone and had the rape kit taken? No.

It's your brain trying to push the incident aside. I guess you could even call it "denial". It doesn't feel real to you yet. It just happened on Friday night?

You don't need to know how to feel or act............ but eventually you will feel........ and you will act as soon as you consciously accept what has happened to you.

Were you drinking? I know you said you were asleep. But had you been drinking? If so, that could contribute to alot of your haze and confusion.

Bits and pieces will continue to rear it's ugly head........... and it will be your choice to either have it take control of your life, or act on it.

Good luck!!
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huni i know just how u feel myn was a few weeks ago and its still not real. i guess it will come in time but i dunno, i feel fraustrated with myself 4 not dealing with it cause im just carrying on as normal too and i so want to be sad about it and think about it but i cant. i just carry on all the time smiling and no one knows the pain inside. sometimes il just get angry for no reason or snap for noting or cry at the tinyist thing, i guess its all part of coping?
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Personally I don't think it's part of "coping".......... it's part of denial. First you gotta "accept" what happened before you can start to cope with it. Right now you are hiding from it and pretending it never happened. That's why you're snapping at people and attempting to carry on as usual. You're not coping......... your're denying. First step is accepting it............. then you can start to cope.......... then you can start to heal. The hardest part is accepting it, the longest part is coping and once you've coped with it, you can start the healing process which sort of blends in with the coping part, IMO.
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Sounds completely normal to me, it takes time for something this big to sink in but it will hit you eventually.
Try and get on the waiting list now for help/counselling so that it's there when you do need it (that time will come, probably sooner than you think.)
And in reply to the title question, yes there are some people who *might* think you're lying - stories of false accusations do get into the press occasionally, but I think (hope) that only happens because the false allegations are still quite rare. Just because you'd had a few drinks does NOT mean you were a fair target!
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hey, i think what you're going through is totally normal! you're not crazy at all! haha. i think this may just be your way of coping because you're so used to being strong and taking care of other people, i think it makes total sense that on some level you would want to "normalize" this so that you can feel strong and in control of it. i did the same thing! hope this puts you at ease a little. if you need to talk, i'm here!
xoxo
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