Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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overcoming a rape

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I was raped four years ago along with my best friend. I haven't been able to tell my family. I still wake up from night terrors and I can't seem to move on. I constantly feel violated and I feel like life is not improving. What should I do? How can I move on?
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i dont think we ever get over it this sucks dont beat yourself up abou telling your parents go at your own pace
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personally I dont think this is something we can get over on our own... I tried as well and failed miserably at that... I have help now from a trained psychologist and it has made a huge difference in my life.
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Find a good counsellor, you might be able to get help via your local rape support services.
My own past still keeps coming back and hitting me even fifteen years on, but at least seeing a good counsellor has helped me to deal with it better.
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will it ever get easier?
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it better as hell get easier, I can't live like this forever. I get so angry sometimes at the bastard for making me this miserable and bitter and angry. I get angry about being angry. It's so stupid. I just want to go back and make it not happen. I was happier before, I just want to erase it. It was a mistake, ctrl-z, undo.

life needs a ctrl-z button, or pill
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I try to just keep pushing it back when the thoughts come, denial is my friend :)
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I'm sorry to say that you never get over it,it never goes away, but like the death of a loved one you learn to live with it and around it.
Talking about it helps,ignoring it doesn't.
A good therapist or a womens rape group would be helpful.
I wish you luck.
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P.S.
I hope you will tell your parents about the rape, I think hiding it just prevents the healing process and will make you feel ashamed of something you didn't ask for or had the power to stop or prevent.
Your the victom, so don't hide it, expose it for what it is.
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