my husband had a counseling appointment this morning. since we found out about our daughter's sexual assault, we have had trouble having sex. so he - understandably - talks about this with his counselor.

she tells him we say 'no' too quickly!!! i am having such a reaction to this. i am so upset, not with him, but with her. i am a rape victim, my daughter was assaulted, i am on all kinds of meds that end up effecting my sex drive...is he supposed to force me if I say no too quickly??? am i supposed to close my eyes and bear it even if i don't want to have sex???

i am crying and shaking and sick to my stomach. i feel like i am going to throw up. i HOPE she did not mean this but that is what it sounds like. it is not a marathon where you push yourself to finish, to make the finish line.