
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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my husband had a counseling appointment this morning. since we found out about our daughter's sexual assault, we have had trouble having sex. so he - understandably - talks about this with his counselor.
she tells him we say 'no' too quickly!!! i am having such a reaction to this. i am so upset, not with him, but with her. i am a rape victim, my daughter was assaulted, i am on all kinds of meds that end up effecting my sex drive...is he supposed to force me if I say no too quickly??? am i supposed to close my eyes and bear it even if i don't want to have sex???
i am crying and shaking and sick to my stomach. i feel like i am going to throw up. i HOPE she did not mean this but that is what it sounds like. it is not a marathon where you push yourself to finish, to make the finish line.
she tells him we say 'no' too quickly!!! i am having such a reaction to this. i am so upset, not with him, but with her. i am a rape victim, my daughter was assaulted, i am on all kinds of meds that end up effecting my sex drive...is he supposed to force me if I say no too quickly??? am i supposed to close my eyes and bear it even if i don't want to have sex???
i am crying and shaking and sick to my stomach. i feel like i am going to throw up. i HOPE she did not mean this but that is what it sounds like. it is not a marathon where you push yourself to finish, to make the finish line.

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I'm so sorry. Hope it's just a misunderstanding and not what she meant. You are right to be upset by it if it is what she meant. She just can't understand what it's like for people who have been hurt sexually in the past, and I can't begin to understand what it's like to go through it again with your daughter. My heart goes out to you.
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