
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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After my rape, I didn't eat and didn't sleep hardly at all for months - but I gained weight. But I wanted to - I didn't want to be attractive to guys - Did this happen to any of you?
And now I want to lose weight to be healthy but I still don't want men to be attracted to me... what do I do?
And now I want to lose weight to be healthy but I still don't want men to be attracted to me... what do I do?
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It took a long time, but I was able to change the way I seem to others. I just did it the hard way, by trial and error and using my pent up anger.
If I were to do it today, I would back it up with some self-defense training and maybe even an acting class! Basically I had to believe deep down, I had to KNOW that I am NOT a victim, and I am STRONG, and I am NOT going to help or allow anyone to attack me. I am going to resist to the point of death. I also am not wondering if anyone can SAVE me. I don't need your help. I don't believe what you say if my gut says you're not a safe person. I can disagree. I don't have to be nice. I don't owe you any response. If I have to kill you to save myself, I will.
I think that message can be seen in my eyes. I don't get hit on anymore. Which is great!
I am not saying that you can control everything and have 100% control over whether you are attacked. I am saying that by presenting a strong image, you can seem less of a ready victim to some victimizers.