who cares what he thinks...

first of all you just have to face it. don't try to forget about it, just face it and remind yourself of the lessons you learned through it, and live each day with those lessons. i kind of see my life like a movie.. and what good can ido with what i've been through, and that helps me get through it all. I hope that helps...

The man that raped me told my friend that he thought it was consentual...But I had bruising all over my body in the shape of handprints. The bathroom he raped me in was covered with blood. I was a virgin and a faithful member of my church who chose to wait until marraige. He was getting married the next day. If I chose to have sex would it really be in the bathroom of a strip club with a man getting married in 10 hours??? That astounds me! But the first thing you need to do is realize that you did nothing wrong just like I didn't. I was on vacation visiting a friend and both of us thought we were out with someone she knew and trusted. How was I supposed to realize he was a rapist instead of a man that could be trusted. You couldn't have know either its not like he has a tatoo on his forhead to warn you! First things First - ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. NONE OF IT IS! Then the second thing - Who gives a shit what he thinks or says. You need to focus on you and what you need right now not about how uncomfortable it would make the jackass (I highly doubt he paid you the same consideration right cause if he did then you wouldn't be here)

You aren't alone! Accepting that and accepting that this really did happen is the 1st step. I'm so sorry that this happened to you! You won't be able to forget about it. But that's ok. If you forgot all about it then your neighbor could knock on your door again and you wouldn't suspect a thing...