Rape Support Group
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Hello all! This topic is the main reason I am here. I have developed some pretty nasty side effects due to my history.
My step-father abused me physically and sexually for the majority of my childhood. There are some things I feel like I certainly recall, some details, while others I cannot remember. I don't know when it started, when it ended, how many times it happened... It was more than once...
I need some help dealing with it all. I need something, but my family doesn't know and I am determined that they never will. I don't know how to do this and be in school and be at work and be a person at the same time...therapy and counseling are terrifying and triggering; I don't know if I can function while I recover. My boyfriend is the one that I trust the most, who knows the most; some friends know, but they are understandably awkward and I can't talk to them.
I need some advice. Am I doing the right thing? What are you all doing about this?
I appreciate your advice and insight.
My step-father abused me physically and sexually for the majority of my childhood. There are some things I feel like I certainly recall, some details, while others I cannot remember. I don't know when it started, when it ended, how many times it happened... It was more than once...
I need some help dealing with it all. I need something, but my family doesn't know and I am determined that they never will. I don't know how to do this and be in school and be at work and be a person at the same time...therapy and counseling are terrifying and triggering; I don't know if I can function while I recover. My boyfriend is the one that I trust the most, who knows the most; some friends know, but they are understandably awkward and I can't talk to them.
I need some advice. Am I doing the right thing? What are you all doing about this?
I appreciate your advice and insight.
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I completely understand what you're saying, and I want you to know that I feel the same way most of the time. All we can do is take tihngs one day at a time. Talking is good, even if it does hurt to being back those memories, its good to get it out and start dealing with it. Hang in there, you are so much stronger than you think and you can get though this.
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You are most defiantly doing the right thing. I know it hurts and I know it triggers but you have got to get it all out of where you hid it inside so that it doesn't eat you alive. You are not alone in this, I promise. Talk to your therapist about compartmentalizing during your therapy. I had the same worry about not being able to function. I have the kind of job that I need to be in the moment when things are happening if you get what I mean so I was worried about flashbacks. He told me how to put it into a compartment and to deal with it when I was in a safe place. It worked for me. I have also had good results from EMDR when I have had issues with things I couldn't and didn't want to remember. You are strong and you can deal with this, one step at a time, one deep breath at a time. Your boy is there for you so lean on him a little, he loves you and that is a way he can love you.
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