I wnat to know what we are supposed to think when we are bombarded from the media with so much unrealistic crap about reporting our rapes and having everything come up roses. Whenever you see a movie which deals with a rape issue the final outcome always shows the bad guy being caught and put away where they can't hurt anyone again. How ofter does this really happen. Alot of rapes involve young girls who are so scared about what will happen to them if it gets out and don't know how thier parents would react or even believe them. Think about this, you have just been raped and abused and then you go to someone you trust for support and are told maybe your wrong and maybe it didn't happen that way(basically being called a liar!). Your parents are to worried about how this will look to thier friend work contacts. If you find the courage to acrually go the er for treatmentthe police are called wether you want them or not.When the police arrive they start treatung like your the criminal and there i really no point in persuing a arrest as it would be our word against them. I think sometimes you have to be brutally raped involving lots of voilince or possible death for the police to really take us serious. When I was raped at the age of 14 and a virgin and fairly new to the party group I was haging around who were all older the me. I never considerd repoting it for several reason, I had willingly gone with this man into a situation that was far over my head.I was sitting in the bathroom hoping I would die after and never have to come out of that bathroom and have to face the monster who had done this just sitting there like nothing had gone down. Then being told to quit being such a baby someone was going to do it. You play with the big boys and you will face the chances that come with it. There was no way I could have ever felt like I could have told ny mother without her blaming it on me and trying to make life difficult for her. When I hear stories about women who have reported it and are prosecuting thier rapist they must have alot of support behind them. I don't think I could feel any worse and then at 17 I was tagteamed by two brothers at thier cousins house with whom I worked.When morning came and I tryed to talk to this girl about what happened she told me that I must have wanted it as her cousins would never do something so henious.I'm standing there with bruises and bite marks and my throat so sore from screaming into the matress with two pillows shoved in top of my head and at times I thought I was dying because I couldn't breath, but I wanted this, I wanted to be so torn up in my vaginal and anal area that I had to wear a maxi pad to absorb the bleeding. I was told by this girl if I ever said anything her cousins would make sure I never said anything again. My mother was so self absorbed with her alchohlic boyfriend she could never be bothered to be there for the much needed support I need
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