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Is it to late to start.

realitychick
realitychick
I was sexaul assualted when I was about 6 or so. And then I was r*ped in college in the early 90's. Is it to late to start healing. At time I think that it was so long ago that I have no right to feel the way I do about something that happend that far in the past. But on the other hand I have spent my life running from it that I have not dealt wih it and know I have no idea how to deal with it. I have no idea on how to start healing I feel that I am just spinning my wheels. And I am just so lost and confused on how to start to heal
Shai
Shai
it's NEVER too late to start healing...i too have run from my past...and it's caught up to me...

i thought that i could outrun it and just forget about it...but i guess i was wrong. i'm ready to turn around and confront it. i just don't know where to start...

you're not alone. if you need to talk, feel free. =)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that in asking the question it kind of shows you know the answer, it is time to start now because it is in your head now. I too waited for years and years. I never told anyone until this past year and I can't tell you the relief I felt just being able to find my voice although at first it sounded as if I was telling a story I had read or seen on TV because I had conditioned myself not to have any emotions I didn't at first but then they came all at once in a big mess. After I finally told I found a therapist who specializes in trauma therapy and I haven't looked back since if you see what i mean. Yes, it really really hurts to talk about it in therapy and sometimes I can't so we talk about current happenings but the awful pain in my chest has slowly gone away. I did develop anxiety issues right around the time I first opened up but then I was splitting from my husband of 10 years so I am sure that played a part. I have a prn script for 0.25mg xanax which I hardly need and I take 10mg of lexapro daily and I have to say that has helped. I don't jump so easy and some of my ODC issues about being in a bed have gone away but I still have nightmares and a lot of trouble sleeping. In my opinion.. and this is just my opinion therapy is the best thing since sliced bread and I suggest that it might be a huge step in your healing. Like I mentioned my therapist specializes in trauma but I don't know enough about the entire field of therapy to say that that is an exclusive way to go. Look into EMDR as I feel I should recommend it in light of my personal experience but this is all just my opinion. Finding your voice in the first place is the hardest and biggest step and I wish you all the luck in the world. If you ever need to chat I am around. Hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not too late. I am seeking therapy now for rapes that happened to me 18-20 years ago.
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