
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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how can this happen to me again.
first of all i cant think straight i got all this crap goin around in my head.
1.do i have the child?
2. i do wait and see if i misscarry ive had 2 so far.
3. do i wait and see if its got downs as my ex fiance has that geen and aboted last time as he went mentally unstable.
4. do i have an abortion. but its not the childs folt.
5. i dont know weather ill have a home 2 bring the child up in.
6. my family wont help me through this they have just shut the door on it.
7. my really good friend who has always bin there says it has to be my decision.
8. if i have the child will it be a constant reminder of what happened that nite.
9. will i love the child with my whole heart.
10. do i have it and put this one up for adoption aswell.
if anyone has any really helpfull advice it would be great.
i also get these thoughts of just ending it all and i have some dreams like this to. does any one else?
first of all i cant think straight i got all this crap goin around in my head.
1.do i have the child?
2. i do wait and see if i misscarry ive had 2 so far.
3. do i wait and see if its got downs as my ex fiance has that geen and aboted last time as he went mentally unstable.
4. do i have an abortion. but its not the childs folt.
5. i dont know weather ill have a home 2 bring the child up in.
6. my family wont help me through this they have just shut the door on it.
7. my really good friend who has always bin there says it has to be my decision.
8. if i have the child will it be a constant reminder of what happened that nite.
9. will i love the child with my whole heart.
10. do i have it and put this one up for adoption aswell.
if anyone has any really helpfull advice it would be great.
i also get these thoughts of just ending it all and i have some dreams like this to. does any one else?
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So............ I had no where to go, no one to rely on, no one but myself. Somehow thru this haze of being the victim of a violent rape, my fiance leaving me, and the fact that I was pregnant, I had to find my way. I look back now and wonder how in the world I did it.......... but I did. I often say that unborn child more or less saved my life. I knew that I had to make a home, etc.,. for that child. Otherwise, I might not have found the strength to go on. That unborn child depended on me and I focused on that. If you want to know the things I went thru and how I somehow came thru it all, please feel free to message me as right now, how I did it, what I did, etc., is not coming to me as to what I did first, etc. I'm in a rush but I saw this had felt compelled to respond.
You will love that baby no matter who the father is because you know what.......... that baby will be YOURS! No later divorces, custody battles, etc. YOURS! YOUR CHILD! YOUR CHILD to bring into this world and nurture.
My aunt who is now in her 80's had a child as a result of a rape. You gotta figure......... that was probably like in the 1940's. Can you imagine? She was raped by her older sister's husband. She was only 15. She was sent to an unwed's mother home (do they still have those??). Anyway, she raised that baby. When he was three, she met the most wonderful man and married (I think they just celebrated their 60th anniversary). That man raised that baby as his own, but deep down, my aunt shares with me that baby was always HERS, but she had his support and his guidance for her son and he was never treated any differently from the son they had together several years later.
You never know where your life's path will take you, who you will meet, etc. But you gotta do what's right for you and what's in your heart. The only way to find out what's in your heart right now is to focus on it. You'll find the answers........... they are there, but your friend is right, the final choice is yours.
If you want to know how I did it being single, no where to go, no support system, etc., i will be glad to share with you.............. just send me a message.