Hey guys,

I'm new to this site. It's really scary for me actually. I was raped about 3 years ago, the night before I went to college. It's been a really hard time for me because I've never really faced it. I've told some close friends, but have never really processed it because I've spent the majority of my efforts not trying to get over it but trying to forget about it. I have a boyfriend now, we've been dating for two and a half years and he's probably the sweetest person in the world. He's helped me in so many ways. I love him so much. I'm starting to realize that I need to work through my issues stemming from my rape in order to be completely intimate with him. On most levels we are so supportive and in tune with eachother, but I'm particularly having trouble sometimes when we have sex. Sometimes I'm into it and sometimes I'm really cold to him when he makes advances. I was just wondering if anyone could give me advice as to how you got over this aspect and were able to have healthy sexual relationships.

Thanks!