Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Hey i would appreciate as uch help as i could get on this issue because im suffering more every single day in my silence.
I am 16 now, almost 1 year ago i was raped. I still suffer from the events of December 7, 2006 and i believe i always will feel this way. I am afraid of talking to my peers, parents or any professionals about my situation. But id like to know your advice. Is this instance legally considered rape? IM not sure of my rights and im sure i sound amazingly stupid but since the day this happened i have had nightmares, a pregnancy scare, horrible feelings of guilt, and now threats of the same events occuring.
On december 7, 2006 i went to hebrew high school with my friends. I had just recently turned 15 years old. When i got to the religious school, my friend stan asked me if i wanted to skip the education that night and go hang out outside. I was sick of classes so i agreed and we went outside, we went for a walk around the corner of an empty big tin building where there were benches to sit and chat on. Stan soon leaned in and started making out with me, this was weird. next thing i new i was being held down against my will. I said "stop...cut it out...leave me alone...get away..get the fuck off of me..." This was all unprotected. After this happened he got up and walked back in, i was left their crying. Hes tried several other times to do the same thing. I have been completely silent about this and i feel like i could have tried harder to stop him. Is this legally considered rape..even though we wee the same age at the time, he was just 5 months older. After these events i reacted strangely because any boyfriends iw ouldnt care if we had sex, it didnt matter to me anymore.., so now i live with this slutty reputation.
what should i do? should i tell someone? is this legally considered rape? i need help and support.
I am 16 now, almost 1 year ago i was raped. I still suffer from the events of December 7, 2006 and i believe i always will feel this way. I am afraid of talking to my peers, parents or any professionals about my situation. But id like to know your advice. Is this instance legally considered rape? IM not sure of my rights and im sure i sound amazingly stupid but since the day this happened i have had nightmares, a pregnancy scare, horrible feelings of guilt, and now threats of the same events occuring.
On december 7, 2006 i went to hebrew high school with my friends. I had just recently turned 15 years old. When i got to the religious school, my friend stan asked me if i wanted to skip the education that night and go hang out outside. I was sick of classes so i agreed and we went outside, we went for a walk around the corner of an empty big tin building where there were benches to sit and chat on. Stan soon leaned in and started making out with me, this was weird. next thing i new i was being held down against my will. I said "stop...cut it out...leave me alone...get away..get the fuck off of me..." This was all unprotected. After this happened he got up and walked back in, i was left their crying. Hes tried several other times to do the same thing. I have been completely silent about this and i feel like i could have tried harder to stop him. Is this legally considered rape..even though we wee the same age at the time, he was just 5 months older. After these events i reacted strangely because any boyfriends iw ouldnt care if we had sex, it didnt matter to me anymore.., so now i live with this slutty reputation.
what should i do? should i tell someone? is this legally considered rape? i need help and support.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I believe you should tell someone if you want to. I believe that holding it in will make it worse...it did for me.
I'm sure it's legally considered rape, but whether or not you can press charges without evidence...probably not. Maybe there was a security camera near by?
You might think you should have fought harder, but don't feel bad for not doing so. Many women freeze when afraid, heck, lots of men do too.
He didn't respect you enough to even ask permission. That is rape, no matter what. You have the power to save other girls from the same situation. Reporting is always the right thing to do, as it may prevent more girls from being harmed, as well as give you closure and make you feel at least a little better knowing that he got what he deserved.
I'd definitely suggest you tell someone, preferably someone close to you for support, and then the cops for legal action. Try not to be embarrassed, remember it is he who has shown he is no more than an animal, not you. He is the one that will be looked down upon, not you. I know reporting it will bring back memories or make it seem more real, but it's the best thing to do, and may stop him from doing it ever again. Besides, he deserves something for the pain he put you through and the memories he gave you.
I encourage you to speak up if there is someone you are clse to that you trust. You shouldn't have to deal with this all by yourself.
Please know that I am here for you. I was also betrayed by someone who I thought was my friend. If you ever need to talk I'm here for you. Always.
I was raped the first time at 14, and I left that experience feeling like sex was all I was good for. In many ways, every encounter since then, whether good or bad, has been tainted by what happened that day. I understand your not caring anymore, or at least the sex not mattering... But consentual sex is far different from rape, so of course you're reacting strangely.
It took me a long time to talk about what happened to me when I was 14. But when I finally did, I felt... betterish, if that makes any sense. Some wounds just don't heal right.
I hope you find the help you need... you deserve it, and you deserve to heal.