As far as I know there aren't any herbal remedies, and if there are..that's pretty scary. You never know what that could do to you. i understand your fear of the gyno. I have the same fear but I really hope and pray that you will let a dr care of this for you so you don't have more problems later on. (((((HUGS)))))

i sent a message to you.

abortion would b an idea

Don't try a herbal remedy or d-i-y abortion, in the past women have died from this!
Talk to the doctor, have a friend with you if necessary, and decide what your best option is.
Is there some reason you haven't told your boyfriend about the rape? I think it might be better if you can sit him down quietly one evening and explain it all to him.

hi im in the same boat as you except mine happened a week earlier. i was booked for an abortion on weds but couldnt go through with it. but i cant have this child. sorry i know this is not much help. but you gotta go 2 docs.

Thanks everybody. I got some information and am exploring my options. Part of me doesn`t want an abortion. So many women can`t have kid, I feel guilty. My boyfriend`s a great guy, but knowing about the rape would kill him. Asking him to raise this baby?! I`m afraid my kids would get picked on if I had this baby. I don`t see a choice but to terminate. I`m just really scared.

I was raped two weeks ago and I'm 21 years old. I wasn't beaten but its possible I'm pregnant. I had to go to the gyno for the first time because of this and it was scary, but its necessary. I don't mean to sound like one of those crazy people, but its not a problem to get rid of. Its a child and its yours. If your boyfriend is someone who loves you then he should support you in this and your children should be supportive too, but you have to tell them. Message me if you'd like to talk. Telling them is hard but its worth it. Shame is a tool of the devil and evil loses its power when you bring it into the light. God still loves you and it will be alright.

My heart breaks for you as you try to deal with this incredibly difficult situation. I can totally understand feeling absolutely freaked out at this point!

There is another option that you didn't mention... adoption. I know our minds immediately go to 'just make the problem go away', but unfortunately, no matter what you decide to do, it won't ever go away. There's a baby involved and that isn't going to change. The only option is to search your heart and find what you can live with for the rest of your life. Adoption may be that option. There are so many women that can't have children (or can't have as many as they would like) and would love to take this baby into their hearts and homes.

I'm kind of passionate about adoption. I was adopted and I'm SO thankful! My daughter and son in law have been waiting over a year to adopt a baby girl. (They want to adopt two... they have four wonderful sons and can't have any more kids of their own.)

I also hope that you'll tell your boyfriend. It really won't kill him. Hurt his heart for you? Of course it will! But you need him to know. His knowing can help so, so much in your healing. I didn't tell my husband until quite a while after we were married. When he didn't know, it was between us. When he did know, it drew us together. I hope you'll give your boyfriend the chance to be there for you.

Wrong after wrong after wrong, never made anything right..

I'm praying for you and if you want to talk, feel free to message me.