
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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I was raped on Nov 2nd and just this morning found out I`m pregnant. My last period started on Oct 13th. I really spent much of Nov in a stupor. It was my best friend that brought it to my attention, we`re together every day and she`s due for hers again, we then realized I never had one in Nov. I`m 36 yrs old with 4 kids already ages 18, 16, 14 & 8, I just moved into a tiny little rancher with my boyfriend of 12 yrs (he knows I was beaten but not raped), I`m still recovering from 4 broken ribs, a result of the rape. I don`t have the fortitude to deal with this! I`m beyond terrified of the gyn anyway, times that by a kabillion now. I have only ever been to one during pregnancy, almost 9 yrs since my last visit. Is there some herbal remedy or some other way to "take care of it" without a dr? Please, PLEASE email me if you have advice you don`t want posted. I`m so far past desperate it ain`t funny. Even though it`s only been 5 wks, my nurse friend assures me I`m 7 wks along, something about a chart they use. I`m running outta time!!!!
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Talk to the doctor, have a friend with you if necessary, and decide what your best option is.
Is there some reason you haven't told your boyfriend about the rape? I think it might be better if you can sit him down quietly one evening and explain it all to him.
There is another option that you didn't mention... adoption. I know our minds immediately go to 'just make the problem go away', but unfortunately, no matter what you decide to do, it won't ever go away. There's a baby involved and that isn't going to change. The only option is to search your heart and find what you can live with for the rest of your life. Adoption may be that option. There are so many women that can't have children (or can't have as many as they would like) and would love to take this baby into their hearts and homes.
I'm kind of passionate about adoption. I was adopted and I'm SO thankful! My daughter and son in law have been waiting over a year to adopt a baby girl. (They want to adopt two... they have four wonderful sons and can't have any more kids of their own.)
I also hope that you'll tell your boyfriend. It really won't kill him. Hurt his heart for you? Of course it will! But you need him to know. His knowing can help so, so much in your healing. I didn't tell my husband until quite a while after we were married. When he didn't know, it was between us. When he did know, it drew us together. I hope you'll give your boyfriend the chance to be there for you.
Wrong after wrong after wrong, never made anything right..
I'm praying for you and if you want to talk, feel free to message me.