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I do not know if this is healthy

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I have not talked about what happened to me out loud with anyone but my husband in about 1 1/2 years. I looked for a support group because my husband thought maybe it would help me deal with some manurisms and quirks I now have that I didn't have before. I found this site. I must say though that I have thought more about what happened to me in the last 3 days than I normally do. I think I prefer to just wait until it comes into my mind and just push it down. I do not know if it is healthy to just keep it all fresh. At some point it has to fade away to where I just don't think about it, right? Ifeel like if I keep talking, writing and thinking about it then it is ruling my life....does that mean He wins? I want to heal the right way but I do not want a therapist to OD me on meds....I take nothing now. any thoughts or suggestions would be great.
deleted_user
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It will NOT fade away if you don't think about it. It will fester - like an infected wound - and it will become like a tumor, eating its way into your brain until, one day, for no obvious reason, you snap. Only after months - possibly years - of treatments will you begin to realize that it's these feelings you buried and these memories you tried to erase coming back to bite you. I know from experience. I have wished so many times that I had just went ahead and told what happened to me when I was fifteen. It would have saved me a lot of time, headache, and dr. bills if I had just gone ahead and told someone and let it all out. I bottled it up and it not only almost cost me my marriage, it came frighteningly close to costing me my life.
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drs give you meds if you need it. Therapists don't. Therapists help you talk it over and get it off your chest. it doesn't just go away.
JennaS
JennaS
For me I believe it was an attitude I got after it happened. I finally got feed up with this negative attitude ruling my daily life and just did my best day to day to put it behind me. I don't supress the memories but rather put the fears and the feelings of somehow being responsible behind me.
I don't take meds and you have the option not to take anything you don't wish.
I believe a therapist would help you but you also need to find one you are comfortable with.
Also my husband has attended my therapy sessions with me at times and has helped him get some understanding of my emotions.
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